The lifethread

Trauma brakes the lifethread – it gets frozen.

When in trauma two parts of the brain are disconnected: the part that understands time, and the part that find words.

The trauma story needs to be a story with a beginning, a mid, and an end.

The trauma story needs to be connected with the lifestory.

Telling stories is different from interviewing. Both left and right part of the brain are used. Something also happens in between us.

Creating a rich story, an alterantive story.

In stories we can externalise – ”What is fear doing in your life?”

In stories we can involve important messages:

You did so well!

Your reactions are normal!

No one should have to experience what you experienced!

It is over!


Make stories magic! Tell them in third person. Include

  • what happened before the incident.
  • what was scary.
  • what happened.
  • the reactions in the body.
  • what it felt like in the body.
  • all the feelings.
  • the shame and guilt.
  • the safety that came.
  • the body´s reactions afterwards.
  • what happened after the incident.


When the child hear her story told back to her, she is resting like in a hammock. The calm and safe voice make her be able to take in the story, even the hard parts of it. She does not have to respond in any way.


And something happens to you! You feel with the child.

Ulrika Ernvik