Guilt and shame

Children easily feel guilt. They need to know that they did the best they could, and that they are children who can not do everything.


Many traumatized feel shame. Shame about how they reacted, shame about that they became victims, that they were abused, that they couldn´t set up their boundaries. Shame about being lonely and unprotected. Shame affects the body in the same way as the traumatic event itself.


When we feel shame we might

  • withdraw
  • avoid to feel anything
  • attack myself
  • attack others


Joy is the opposite to shame.

Ulrika Ernvik